how to find your style + the confidence to wear it

  • Published: 11 July 2019
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    In this chatty video, I answer one of my most asked questions: how do I find my style and the confidence to wear what I want? I break it down into steps, from assessing what clothes you already wear the most in your wardrobe, to finding aesthetic inspiration, building a moodboard, and tips for going shopping and styling outfits.

    ON ME
    yellow top: princess polly (
    shorts: abrand (
    heart necklace: vanessa mooney (similar:
    thin choker: mejuri (
    heart choker: melody ehsani (similar:

    i also have an inspo account @bestdressedinspo :)

    F A Q
    what’s your name? ashley
    what’s your instagram? @best.dressed
    how old are you? 21 (born in 1998)
    how tall are you? 5'5"
    what’s your ethnicity? half british and half burmese
    what equipment do you use to film?
    ➭ main camera: panasonic lumix gh5s (
    ➭ 12-35mm lens (
    ➭ mic: rode videomic pro+ (
    ➭ vlog camera: canon powershot g7x mark ii
    ➭ canon m50 (
    ➭ editing: final cut pro

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Comments • 6 892

  • Elizabeth Webster
    Elizabeth Webster  1 hours back

    Wow that was a lot more complex than I thought, I love it

    • Manoela Vieira
      Manoela Vieira  2 hours back

      this video changed my life

      • Claire Cray
        Claire Cray  2 hours back

        i wish it was easier for plus size girls to find fashion inspiration and develop our style. 9/10 we can’t even shop in stores. i love you so much ashley and you obviously cant comment on this struggle from personal experience but i think you should find a plus size fashion blogger to collaborate with and do a video with!!!! i love your style so much i’m just so lost on where to shop that doesn’t stop at size 6

        • Itsme._.Lexie B
          Itsme._.Lexie B  2 hours back

          i honestly hate my style and this actually helped a lot because I’ve been trying to find a style and just a new way to find out what I like. I’ll definitely use these steps/tips and try to slowly build my style :)

          • Yasmiena
            Yasmiena  4 hours back

            I’m Muslim but I really want to wear shorts does anyone have any tips of how to make shorts modest

            • Yasmiena
              Yasmiena  4 hours back

              My fashion taste-
              80’s/90’s boho casual chic mom

              • cristina Larumbe
                cristina Larumbe  4 hours back

                when she talked about being scared of dressing how you want and your classmates making comments abou that, girl.. i felt that; i sometimes get compliments about my clothes but sometimes i get asked such things like "why would you wear that?" and its such a turn down but now i learned to be proud of my style and the things im trying to see what suits me better.

                • mochi baby
                  mochi baby  4 hours back

                  Pulling an all nighter was really worth it because I was randomly going through videos on YouTube and I just found the best channel, a person talking about something I love <333 thank youuu I love youuuu

                  • PAIGE GENTLING
                    PAIGE GENTLING  5 hours back

                    You said ‘fashionable Serial Killer’ and I was like, “after this imma watch some crime cases!” I’m really weird 😂

                    • Sena Yamazaki
                      Sena Yamazaki  6 hours back

                      This was really nice to hear and really helped, thanks!

                      • JiminHasJams2 26
                        JiminHasJams2 26  6 hours back

                        Why do I feel a boost in my low self esteem

                        • Rachi 14
                          Rachi 14  6 hours back

                          I literally only wear nerdy cartoon T-shirts, cheap shorts/jeans, a hoodie if it's winter time and the only pair of trainers I own. I've never developed a style even though I really want to because I'm scared of what people might think of the sudden change. Also I hate going shopping because it's very difficult for me to find my size and after a few hours I just want to go home and lay on my bed. I'm too fat for standard shops but too skinny for plus size shops. It's very frustrating, specially with my mom and friends judging my fashion choices and making me feel bad. I've been trying for a long time but I end up sad and dress up as always. Anyone else has the same problem?

                          • Tilly
                            Tilly  6 hours back

                            Thing is... Most of my clothes that i love and wear often are partly because they hide my fat. I can't actually wear what i want because it would show my fat :/

                            • koosluv
                              koosluv  7 hours back

                              you’re amazing

                              • Elizabeth Munden
                                Elizabeth Munden  8 hours back

                                Thank you so much for this video! Also you look really pretty in this video!!

                                • Tatum Canady
                                  Tatum Canady  8 hours back

                                  I dont have a distinct style

                                  • Hannah Marlyn
                                    Hannah Marlyn  9 hours back

                                    My problems
                                    1.I have 3 styles Soft,,edgy and artsy
                                    2.My parents don’t allow me to wear my style
                                    3.I‘m broke lol

                                    • Victoria Bishop
                                      Victoria Bishop  10 hours back

                                      This really helped. Not even going to lie.

                                      • Katrina Kozorezov
                                        Katrina Kozorezov  10 hours back

                                        Someone make a meme out of Ashley breaking her pearl necklace and Ashley's reaction to it xP
                                        it would be so relate-able!

                                        • Katrina Kozorezov
                                          Katrina Kozorezov  10 hours back

                                          First off, congrats on the success, and the background of the room in this video chopped up? I guess it kind of keeps the viewer's eyes focused on Ashley and not serve as a distraction. But once I noticed it, it also felt trippy xP I think this was done in the talking about movies video too.

                                          Once you notice it's so weird!

                                          • Eliana Ginsburg
                                            Eliana Ginsburg  10 hours back

                                            “oh you’re dressing up today” - my mom ever time i don’t wear sweatpants

                                            • Amarae Whiteman
                                              Amarae Whiteman  10 hours back

                                              Hey Ashley I love your style and your outfits go really well with you hair but what about people with short hair?

                                              • ashleigh nicole
                                                ashleigh nicole  11 hours back

                                                im so happy u made this because i think ive finally developed my style- it always has a mix of masculine and feminine elements, like boxier jeans and a girly top and some funky shoes- i can’t wait for the basics ive chosen to arrive from nasty gal (: im finally gonna be dressing both to my aesthetic and comfy and like my personality. WHEW

                                                • Rachel Alcala
                                                  Rachel Alcala  11 hours back

                                                  Oof I'm 22 & love pinterest😅😂

                                                  • Minty_ Leaf
                                                    Minty_ Leaf  11 hours back

                                                    I have tons of clothes but I don’t have A SINGLE PLAIN SWEATER

                                                    • BTS and NCT stan
                                                      BTS and NCT stan  14 hours back

                                                      I would describe my style as a girly soft tomboy 💀 i don’t even know if this possible.

                                                      • alex virusel
                                                        alex virusel  14 hours back

                                                        my fashion preferences consist of a mix of me being too comfortable to wear anything too extra and me liking styles that go well on girls without boobs or very skinny girls (ex: you or marzia) and that doesn't look good on me, im a size 38 (uk 10) and have big boobs. just because i like a turtle neck it doesn't mean i can wear it :(

                                                        • SJJV
                                                          SJJV  15 hours back

                                                          Hi ashley, where is the dress from that you're wearing at 10:49?

                                                          • Corina Stijak
                                                            Corina Stijak  15 hours back

                                                            Thank you Ashley!

                                                            • Emily Yap
                                                              Emily Yap  15 hours back

                                                              WHOLESOME CONTENT RIGHT HERE

                                                              • dogsandbtsgivemelife
                                                                dogsandbtsgivemelife  16 hours back

                                                                Me: *holding a shirt that I like*

                                                                My parents: like that?

                                                                Me: no i just carry clothes around in a clothing store -_-

                                                                • luqman hakim
                                                                  luqman hakim  16 hours back

                                                                  She always dress like she’s ready for a picnic impromptu 😂 i love it

                                                                  • space spaghetti
                                                                    space spaghetti  17 hours back

                                                                    i rlly like this one jacket but my dad was like lol u look stoopid jokes on him i made him buy it

                                                                    • Athena Rodriguez
                                                                      Athena Rodriguez  17 hours back

                                                                      This video really inspired me omg. I really wanna get into fashion and explore my style. Thanks Ashley

                                                                      • Ali Al Jahwari
                                                                        Ali Al Jahwari  18 hours back

                                                                        When you are not allowed to shop for clothes without your mom 😒

                                                                        • -IIMinaII-
                                                                          -IIMinaII-  21 hours back

                                                                          I always wear grey clothes XD

                                                                          • PotatoChipsAreGood
                                                                            PotatoChipsAreGood  21 hours back

                                                                            The styles I want to have don’t mix- like seriously. Pastel, grunge, little bit of 90s ish, those super adorable like Japanese like styles (does anyone know what those are? I’d literally be so freaking happy if I found out what they’re called because I’m obsessed.) Only problem is that I’m a lazy potato and I don’t know where to buy these 😪. I’m sorry if this doesn’t make sense, it’s almost 1 am and I’m super hyper and like, idek. Have a nice day or night ✌️

                                                                            • such trash
                                                                              such trash  22 hours back

                                                                              Why am i watching this i am an emo trainwreck and all my clothes are band shirts and skinny jeans and i love my style already

                                                                              • Hniang T
                                                                                Hniang T  22 hours back

                                                                                Your half Burmese??!! Woahhhh!! That’s crazy!! I’m actually from Burma/Myanmar!

                                                                                • Ehmit Soe
                                                                                  Ehmit Soe  23 hours back

                                                                                  All I ever wear are basketball shorts and hoodies

                                                                                  • Baraa Mukattash
                                                                                    Baraa Mukattash  24 hours back

                                                                                    I ended up saving only boyish I see why people ask me if I was the 3rd brother in the family. 🤦🏻‍♀️

                                                                                    • PettySweet
                                                                                      PettySweet  24 hours back

                                                                                      I know my style (kind of) but I don’t have the wallet for it 🤣

                                                                                      • amparoramirez 360
                                                                                        amparoramirez 360  1 days back

                                                                                        I have a big problem with clothes. I have a deformity in the legs that causes me to have lower knee muscles down so I don't know how to cover it and look good at the same time. If anyone has any suggestions, it would be very helpful!!!

                                                                                        • Lucy Stewart
                                                                                          Lucy Stewart  1 days back

                                                                                          your voice sounds like rowan blanchard’s, it’s so cute

                                                                                          • Jess Girr
                                                                                            Jess Girr  1 days back

                                                                                            I love your videos girl! I feel like the content has taken a drastic upswing since you've had time to focus on youtube and it's exciting to see what you will do in the future. Speaking of- I'm 32 and it's funny to me that you mention 30 year olds like they're old or real adults or something, hahaha. You will see how young 30 is soon enough darlin! You're the best!

                                                                                            • clarradactyl
                                                                                              clarradactyl  1 days back

                                                                                              30 year old MOM?! lololol. love you girl, but not all of us 30 year olds are homemakers with babies running around the house 😂

                                                                                              • Quan Lai
                                                                                                Quan Lai  1 days back

                                                                                                Your such an inspiration😭😭

                                                                                                • Klara Vinci Guerra
                                                                                                  Klara Vinci Guerra  1 days back

                                                                                                  really needed this since half of the countrie here is wearing hoodies and sporty outfits. While i love some good funky sheet. And that confidence tho